Self Love

Filling Up Your Bucket with Self Love so You Have Love to Give

I know through ancient wisdom and the latest scientific research we are all interconnected. When I love me, I am also loving you!  Together through our love, we can heal ourselves and our world.  Love is everything – our purpose, our calling, and it begins within each of us!

You are unique, just like your finger prints, and you have a force within you that is so powerful! This force can only be tapped into by you understanding you and by being, creating, doing, and giving whatever truly inspires you and gives you great meaning! All of this is connected to who you are!

Here is a short (and funny to me) video from my Personal Development for Extraordinary People class talking about this

Here are five tools that can assist you on this journey to truly love ourselves:

1.  Live in the present. Simply
Your body can only be in the present moment.  Tune into it.  Feel your breath coming in, feel and say “now is coming in” and hold your breath for a few seconds. Feel in your body, “Now is all there is”.

When you begin to exhale, let go of thoughts, let go of what is no longer here.  Think, feel and say, “I let go of what I no longer need.”

Doing this in the beginning of your day and letting yourself use this as a mantra throughout the day.  Inhale now… hold now… let go now of what no longer serves.  This is a great way to be in the present!

2.  Get in touch with the beauty in and around you. Use your Senses
These times we are living in are evolutionary. We know what we give our attention to grows and multiplies!  Look around you right now.  What can you appreciate?  When you notice the things you like, and evolve you, you will release and replace the negative thoughts and disempowering influences in your life.

3.  Be yourself
“The most powerful force in the human psyche is people’s need for their words and actions to stay consistent with their IDENTITY – how we define ourselves.” ~Tony Robbins

You are giving something all of the time to the people you care about.  All of the time, something is going from you to connect you to those around you. Notice what you give to others around you.  What are you giving in order to connect with them?   Are your giving them kind words?  Are your helping them accomplish or clean up something or doing little acts of service? Are you giving gifts?  Are you spending quality time with them? Are you looking to give hugs and physical touch?

Just notice ways you try to give to your loved ones.  Start consciously giving that to yourself.  Give to yourself words of affirmation, “I am making a difference,” “I am growing,” and “I am beautiful!” Give to yourself quality time or the gift of physical touch like a massage or manicure. Noticing what you value and give it to yourself.  By giving what you value to yourself, you are more of you and this is “Being yourself”!

4.  Be with others
“I believe that our deepest emotional need is the need to feel loved.” ~Dr. Gary Chapman

You don’t know what it’s like when you are not there because you are not there!  You are here to be and to express what you are here to give.  No one else can contribute to another, the community, or to the world in the way you do.  You have within you innovations. How do you share and grow these innovations of your?

When with another, truly listen with your eyes and drink in the other person with your ears. Listen wholeheartedly to what they are sharing and not just what they are saying.  Listen to what they are meaning! You are in the same space with them so allow all of your attention to be in the moment with them. Be available for a deeper level of connection between you and feel that you are available for a healing in the moment.

Being with others will allow an awakening an inner listening with in you.  It will let you express yourself to yourself at that deeper level. Keeping your focus in the moment on the person will give you a sense of aliveness and connection.  Your emotions will be engaged on a deeper level! Your giving at such deep levels will awaken self love at deeper levels and a sense of love that gives back to multiples of what you give out!

5.  Listen to your Body: All you need is within you
Mine is digesting the food I just ate, writing this note to you, listening to the piano downstairs and sensing the temperature in the room, breathing in air, pumping blood and nutrients to each body part with very little effort. I truly know, “Everyday, in every way, I am getting better and better.  Everyday in every way I’m getting stronger and stronger!”

“Take care of your body with steadfast fidelity. The soul must see through these eyes alone, and if they are dim, the whole world is clouded.”  – Goethe

My body is a genius and if I listen to it, it will direct me to everything my heart desires.  Listening to your body is changing your habitual questions! The questions you ask yourself are being listened to and answered by your body.

What you decide about yourself, the decisions you make, not your conditions or circumstances are what determines your destiny! Focus on “How can I appreciate even more all of the love and guidance that is inside of me right now?”

“What you consistently speak with emotional intensity, you will experience, you will create, and you will become. The words that you speak with emotional conviction become the life you live – this is your heaven or this is your hell.” ~Tony Robbins

Thank you for joining me on this adventure of discovery and transformation!