What are Defense Mechanisms Your Partner or You May Use

de·fense mech·an·ism/d??fens,d??fens,?d??fens ?mek??niz?m/nounplural noun: defense mechanisms

1. an automatic reaction of the body against disease-causing organisms.
   • a mental process (e.g., repression or projection) initiated, typically unconsciously, to avoid conscious conflict or anxiety.

1. Take Responsibility

Be as Kind to Yourself as possible
Know What You Actually Wanted

Attachment Theory

Summary:

The attachment theory argues that a strong emotional and physical bond to one primary caregiver in our first years of life, is critical to our development. If our bonding is strong and we are securely attached, then we feel safe to explore the world. We know there is always that safe base, to which we can return to anytime. If our bond is weak, we feel insecurely attached. We are afraid to leave or explore a rather scary-looking world. Because we are not sure if we can return.

Four Possible OUTCOMES FROM CHILDHOOD:

1. Securely Attached

2. Anxious/Ambivalent

3. Anxious/Avoidant

4. Anxious/Disorganized

How to Over-come any Defense Mechanism

How to be Mentally Strong

What are the five components of emotional intelligence?According to Daniel Goleman , an American psychologist who helped to popularize emotional intelligence, there are five key elements to it:

• Self-awareness.
• Self-regulation.
• Motivation.
• Empathy.
• Social skills.

Psychiatrist George Eman Vaillant introduced a four-level classification of defence mechanisms:

• Level I – pathological defences (psychotic denial, delusional projection)
• Level II – immature defences (fantasy, projection, passive aggression, acting out)
• Level III – neurotic defences (intellectualization, reaction formation, dissociation, displacement, repression)
• Level IV – mature defences (humour, sublimation, suppression, altruism, anticipation)

2. Create an Anchor from
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

Intensity

1. . Firstly, think of an emotion you would like to anchor. …
2. Think of an anchor that you would like to use. …
3. Recall the emotion you wish to anchor and get yourself at the peak of emotional intensity.
4. Engage your trigger. …
5. Repeat as much as you like, the more you do it, the stronger the anchor becomes. …

Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix

3. Create Boundaries

Setting Healthy Boundaries