Watch this video of Kathryn Schulz’s ted talk:
Parapharing her in some of this note to you: `
You will most likely delight in sharing yourself more authetically.
If you skip through this -you will really miss seeing solutions to your problems clearly!
The present tense is where you live. … You and each person ends up trapped in this bubble of feeling right about everything. I think this is a problem.
Why is this a problem?
Being wrong doesn’t feel like anything. Actually, it does feel like something: it feels like being right. I call this “error of blindness.”
Second reason this is a problem: You learned to feel like those who are wrong are dumb nitwits.
Trusting too much in the feeling of being on the correct side of anything can be very dangerous. This internal sense of rightness that we all experience is not a reliable guide to what is actually going on in the external world. And when we act like it is and we stop entertaining the possibility that we could be wrong…disaster.
A series of unfortunate assumptions that we make about people who disagree with us, who are of course “right.”
The ignorant assumption
The idiot assumption
The evil assumption
This attachment to our own rightness keeps us from correcting mistakes, and causes us to treat each other terribly.
This also misses the whole point of being human. The miracle of your mind is not that you can see the world as it is, but that you can see the world as it isn’t.
Now consider Brene Brown, the vulnerability expert:
“The level of collective courage in an organization is the absolute best predictor of that organization’s ability to be successful.”
“Feeding people half-truths or bullshit to make them feel better (which is almost always about making ourselves feel more comfortable) is unkind.”
“It turns out that trust is in fact earned in the smallest of moments. It is earned not through heroic deeds, or even highly visible actions, but through paying attention, listening, and gestures of genuine care and connection.”
Remember this:
1. Be as courageous as humanly possible for what you value and wish to see in our world!
When you recognize a wrong in your immediate environment ~Do everything to bring it to the next best step. Create deeper layers of integrity where ever you go!
2. Be the most truthful, raw, and in integrity version of yourself! Do your best to tell the whole truth! “Liars never heal” is what Carolyn Myss shares!
3. Trust is earned, felt, and created through paying attention, listening, and gestures of genuine care and connection! Become the most trustworthy version of yourself! You will thank you for the rest of your life for what this does for you!
Leave a Reply