Years ago, I stood before my family, my community, and my Higher Power, vowing to love my then-husband, Greg, until “death do us part.” But when faced with breast cancer, I realized that clinging to a vow that no longer served my life force was a choice against healing. I chose life instead.
With courage, I asked to be released from those vows. Greg embraced a conscious uncoupling—a process rooted in love, respect, and the sacred act of divorce, which I discovered is celebrated as a commandment and a good deed in some traditions.
This revelation, guided by my Higher Power, allowed me to heal not just my body but my spirit, transforming pain into purpose.
By unspoken agreement Greg made all major life decisions for us
We met 2003, Married, and became parents in 2004 and 2006.
He quit his job when our youngest began to walk, when he was the primary provider, he decided the kids should stop nursing. He chose to become Tyler’s primary playmate and both kids mentor without discussion.
I was a “Single” Wife – He took the kids on an American journey
Imagine trading heavy chains for wings. That’s my story—from a marriage that dimmed light to a divorce that set souls free. No drama, just sacred uncoupling: healing old wounds, honoring the past, and stepping into joy. Today, I share this whisper of wisdom, kept light and breezy, so you can skim, smile, and soar.
The Gist: From Shadows to Sunshine
My ex, Greg, and I were loyal to our souls, but loyalty without breath becomes a cage. Guided by a Higher Power, We chose release—not as failure, but as a holy “yes” to life.
Extending our life sharpened the call: Live fully, or not at all. We parted as friends, co-parenting our gifts, Jasmine and Tyler, who now fill my days with laughter and wild love.
Divorce? It’s no villain. It’s a commandment to heal generational echoes—those unspoken vows of “stay small, stay safe.”
We broke free, reclaiming affluere (abundant flow) over humilis (lowly ground).
Grief came in waves, but I surfed them with gratitude: for community, for lessons, for the Golden Rule (Matthew 7:12)—Do unto others as you’d have them do to you.
Nightly, like Benjamin Franklin, I ask: Did I leave things better?
The answer? Always, when I choose joy.
Einstein called miracles “nature’s way of staying anonymous.”
Mine?
Vows aren’t forever if they dim your G-d spark—rewrite them for freedom.
Giving from my overflow—I’ve wanted for nothing, so
Jasmine’s laughter lifts the low,
Tyler’s gaze turns to light,
In service sown, where spirits thrive: my heart and soul, restored, take flight
Quick Sparks for Your Journey
- Breathe It Out: Journal spoken or unspoken vows you might have taken
“Till death do us part” can be released in what is called “THE GET” - Golden Glow: Practice the Rule in tiny ways—smile at a stranger, forgive a memory.
Watch ripples of joy. - Light Living: Grief stages? Surf ’em.
Acceptance unlocks action.
You’re not alone; we’re all kin in this dance.
From Vows to Freedom: My Healing Journey
Loyalty Redefined: Honoring All Connections
Divorce did not mean abandoning loyalty. Greg, the father of our incredible children, remains a cherished friend and part of our extended family. Our community, our children, and I continue to honor him, proving that love doesn’t end—it evolves. Loyalty to myself meant choosing healing, and that choice extended to everyone I love. By choosing me, I chose us all.
This is the essence of my message: you can honor your commitments while releasing what no longer serves you. Loyalty is not about sacrificing your truth; it’s about creating space for everyone to thrive.
Could you consider Divorce as a commandment or good deed? Wow, feel great and I felt Higher Power showed you these ideas, traditions, and possibilities so you could heal through Higher Power’s guidance. Higher power releases you from the promise, di-ease naturally leaves your body because the first promise: “Put no other Higher Powers Before Me!” That is the highest promise of all promises.
The Golden Rule: A Universal Guide
“The way we treat people is the way we treat God.”
– Teilhard de Chardin
Quick Sparks for Your Journey
- Breathe It Out: Journal one vow to release today. What if “till death” meant until it serves?
- Golden Glow: Practice the Rule in tiny ways—smile at a stranger, forgive a memory. Watch ripples of joy.
- Light Living: Grief stages? Surf ’em. Acceptance unlocks action. You’re not alone; we’re all kin in this dance.
An Invitation to Heal and Thrive
If you’re ready to release generational trauma and create generational joy, I invite you to join me. Whether you’ve faced health challenges, healed from past wounds, or are seeking to honor your commitments in new ways, your journey is sacred. Let’s walk this path together, lightly, as Aldous Huxley advised: “Lightly, my darling, lightly.”
A Final Note of Gratitude
You will like yourself so much better when you can see and amplify the best possible outcome for another! You want this because you “know” the golden rule. I learned it when I met the most sacred beings in my near death experiences.
“Do one of the above; And live in such a way that you will enrich, and not diminish, our relatives in the Earth family of animals and plants, soil, air, and water.” – Earth Wisdom
The Greatest Commandment in Aramaic
The teaching combines two quotes from the Old Testament: Deuteronomy 6:5 and Leviticus 19:18. Jesus (Yeshua in Aramaic) would have spoken these in his native Old Galilean Aramaic, drawing from the existing Jewish scriptures and oral traditions.
The Aramaic rendition, based on the Peshitta text and Aramaic scholarship, is:
1. Love God
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.”
- Aramaic (transliterated): W’tihav Mar-Yah Elahak b’kol lebbak, u’b’kol naphshak, u’b’kol re’yanak, u’b’kol haylak.
- Meaning: This calls for total devotion of one’s entire being and resources to the Divine. In Aramaic, the word for God is often Alaha (???????) or Elah (???), related to the Hebrew Eloah.
2. Love Your Neighbor
“And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'”
- Aramaic (transliterated): U’tihav qariwakh daykak. (Aramaic variations exist depending on dialect/source)
- Meaning: This is a practical command for ethical action, meaning “that which is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow”. In Aramaic, the word for “neighbor” can be qariwa (????????).
By following these two core commands, one fulfills the essence of all spiritual and ethical law.
Every moment is a chance to be present! Every moment is a moment to make the next best choice.
Divorced, the light in me knows how to be …
Alive.
I will discover it -the new alive me – with every person I see!
Yay – so so grief- and your stages…
Stages – Denial, Anger, and Bargaining are over -Acceptance – Acceptance and the big D-
Not depression. Decisions – Actions that serve! I kneel.
Beloved Providence –
Life on purpose
Life with only a yes
Life with no complaints
Acceptance
Values
Committed Action
And
Love, love, love!
Accept what you want…
What you have… grateful for it all!
Keep on going ….
I choose to be in deep Oneness together.
If you read this far thank you!
I wrote this because
I dedicated my love to be stable to support you!
I am so grateful
We FOUR
may become Eight
Forever more:
Open heart…
Clear Mind…
Relaxed being
With all my love,
Thank you…
Sacred space we share
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